I received a call from one of my coworkers out of the blue and he asked me if I am Pagan? Generally I am wayy more out as being transgender than outing my personal spiritual beliefs or practices, because of the stigma of calling one’s self pagan. (There is still the notion that all pagans are Satan worshipers.) When I am ministering to others it’s not about me, but about what the needs of my clients are. However in this instance, when my reply was confidently “Yes,” there was the follow up question of…are you available next weekend to do a handfasting for my partner and me?” I was thrilled, as I always am to be part of a couples special commitment to each other. so while I don’t impose my practices on others, as an inter faith minister, no matter how different we are, at the end of the day we all breathe the same air and see the sun and moon in the sky.
Paganism for me is about following an earth based religion, it’s about communing with nature, respecting our planet, following the phases of the moon and celebrating the seasons. I have always felt closest to the divine out in nature. So after my obligatory interview of this couple, we came up with a plan to meet on the Highline Park in NYC the following Saturday.
It was a beautiful crisp breezy day, a cut a circle of protection around us with a wooden wand, followed by a circle of salt. I called in the directions north, south, east and west, as well as above and below. I thanked our queer ancestors and read an elemental blessing. The couple exchanged their personal vows to one another and exchanged the traditional “cakes and ale” or wine and a sweet, along with a few tears of joy. I tied their hands with the ceremonial cords they both had brought, before undoing the circle of protection.
It is my honor to hold space for couples in these important monuments, and it’s even sweeter when we can all show up as our real selves.
Blessed Be!

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